I’m going to do something a bit different here, I will create a series of posts that will include the first three chapters of the latest version of my book “Just Do It – Damn It” for free, I will separate each chapter in to a few posts, because some of the chapters are a bit big and I don’t want the posts to become too long.
Please make sure you read Just Do It – Damn It – 1. Change (Part 1) , before continuing.
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1.Change (Part 2)
Continuation from Just Do It – Damn It – 1. Change (Part 1)
- I changed my diet – I don’t want to sound like I’m bragging in any way, but I have been blessed with extremely fast metabolism. I eat like crazy and no matter what I consume I don’t gain any weight (I’m not kidding, I’ve been 60 kilograms ever since I was 16). The only problem is that when you don’t gain any weight sometimes you fall into a vicious circle of junk food and a lot of sugary treats. Unfortunately, I’ve done this way too many times; especially if I’m going through a period of feeling down, I consume a lot of bad food.
Food directly influences mood, well-being and levels of depression. Certain types of food can be very addictive and can have a long-lasting negative effect not only on your pants’ size, but most importantly on your mental and emotional health.
Once I started changing I started doing more research on the effects that food has on health, so I decided that I needed to fuel my body with the right nutrition for me to be able to go and accomplish the tasks I had in mind.
I completely cut out sugar and stopped adding extra salt to my meals, I started eating at least 2 pieces of fruit a day and I had one Super Salad* a day.
I also started working out 3 times a week and sleeping 8 hours a night. I put myself on a strict regime and tried to cut out my bad habits as much as possible. The whole process was difficult at the beginning and until I got used to it, but it paid off tremendously at the end.
I know that it’s difficult to change your habits and diet, but it’s possible. I don’t know what your current situation is, but I will try to give you some basic advice on changing your relationship with food.
- 1. Do some research and create a meal plan depending on your needs and current situation. Keep in mind that whatever you put in your body that is the energy level that you will have for the day. If you put junk food in your system, you won’t have the energy and capacity to go a full day.
- 2. Remember that if you consume bad food, not only your weight will suffer, but most importantly your mental and emotional state will be ruined eventually. And I’m telling you as a skinny guy who has gone through a couple of depression cycles in my life, it’s not fun being skinny and depressed, that’s why I don’t emphasize on the gaining weight aspect, because it’s better to be chubby and happy than skinny and depressed. But be very careful, like I said, bad food causes bad mental and emotional reaction in the body, and can lead to serious food addictions.
- 3. Have one or two Super Salads* a day (or any other type of salad).
*Super salad recipe – Spinach, Tomatoes, Cucumber, Avocado, Feta Cheese, Olives, Oil and Mayo
- I changed the clothing that I was wearing – when I was 12 years old I got interested in American hip-hop music. As I grew older I got more and more into it, and by the time I was 15-16 I started wearing ridiculously oversized clothing, backwards caps and sneakers. My head was clean-shaven, and I wore a silver chain around my neck (yes it was quite the spectacle to witness). I was carrying myself like this up until I was 19 and then I slowly grew out of that type of dressing and behaviour. By the time I was 22-23 I was wearing shirts with ties and rocking leather casual shoes. A very different look.
When I look back and compare the type of clothing that I used to wear and the type of style I have now, I immediately notice that I was treated very differently based on what I was wearing and how I looked. Trust me on this, I was getting a very different treatment when I wore baggy pants and a hoodie compared to how people treat me today when I wear smart clothes.
When I was with shaven head and baggy clothes, people were not happy to see me. Every time I’d walk into a store, people would look at me with suspicion. I was getting stopped by the police almost daily for document checks. But generally, nobody paid much attention to me or took me seriously whenever I had something to say.
Once I changed my style, I noticed how people started treating me differently. The change, of course, happened slowly, but I made the first step right after I had that trigger moment that made me want to improve myself and change. From then on, I was never stopped by the police, people were happy to see me in their shop and people were interested in what I had to say.
Style, clothing and presentation have a huge impact on the way people threat and see you. If you carry yourself like a bum, people will most likely treat you like one.
- I created a bucket list – when I started researching and getting interested in self-development I was introduced to the concept of a bucket list (a list of all the things that you want to do before you “kick the bucket”). When I was 19 I created my first bucket list and I’ve been constantly updating it ever since. I regularly add new things and remove others that don’t interest me anymore.
Creating a bucket list gave me so much meaning and purpose in my life; I highly recommend this simple concept. Create one as soon as you can, it will make a huge difference in your life.
- I started writing down all my goals and got my life priorities in line – I used to have periods in life – a couple of month at a time, when I didn’t know what I wanted to do with my life or where I wanted to go next. I was missing structure and purpose. I think this happens to most people at some point in their life. The only way I overcame this frustrating problem was by writing down in a notepad all my goals and the things I want to achieve. This gave me and my life a sense of purpose and meaning. I highly recommend you do that, if you feel lost or without a purpose in life.
Create a list of all the projects you want to do. Keep in mind that this is different from a bucket list.
Another thing that I recommend is writing down in the same notepad your priorities in life. What are the important things in your life that matter the most to you? Put numbers next to them and start from the most important thing to the least important. Try to keep it from 5 to 10 categories max (don’t go into details).
This will show you what you need to focus on and what to ignore.
Here are my priorities in life just to illustrate what I mean:
- Family and Spouse
- Business / Money / Career
- Learning / Self – Improvement / Education
- Leisure / Fun / Party
This little list gives me tremendous structure and navigation in life.
Once again, I highly recommend you create one ASAP!
- I started reading books like crazy – the first book I ever read was “Screw it, let’s do it” by Richard Branson, when I was 21 years old. Before that I had never read a full book in my life – I was just not interested in reading books which was a huge mistake. 2 years after I read my first book, I walked in to a charity shop in Liverpool and found this huge selection of books. I bought a few for a ridiculously low price and started going through one of them (I think it was an Allan Sugar book). After a few chapters I got so hooked on reading every morning that I haven’t stopped ever since.
Reading books open so many new horizons for me that I never knew existed, I developed patience, accumulated knowledge and most importantly I managed to balance my mind and spirit.
Reading books is tremendously important and will unlock hidden areas in your brain that you never knew existed.
- I studied people and chose my role models – I’ve always liked to study people and observe different behavioural patterns. We as humans like to mimic what is in front of us and what is in the everyday reality that surrounds us. That’s why once I started my journey towards a better self; I made a clear choice who would be the people I would look up to.
Positive role models are something that many people don’t have in their life. But it’s not difficult go outside of your immediate surroundings and chose someone to look up to. There are many historical figures, athletes, writers, philosophers, poets and musicians (even though we are all humans, and everybody has their flaws) that you can look up to.
You can’t choose your family and your surroundings, but you can always choose the people you look up to!
End of Chapter
Chapters to Come
Just Do It – Damn It – 2. It’s not what happens to you, it’s how you handle it. (Part 1)
Just Do It – Damn It – 2. It’s not what happens to you, it’s how you handle it. (Part 2)
Just Do It – Damn It – 3. Don’t waste time, invest it (Part 1)
Just Do It – Damn It – 3. Don’t waste time, invest it (Part 2)